honestly i think the biggest perpetrators of ‘nonbinary is a third gender’ on here are people who refuse the concept. 'im not male or female or nonbinary, im a fourth thing’ okay, so as long as that thing isn’t 'male’ or 'female’, you’re nonbinary. nonbinary isn’t a gender in itself, it’s literally just a descriptor for any gender other than male or female. 'yeah well im not agender either’ okay but again as long as you’re not male or female then nonbinary, as a descriptor of whatever your gender actually is, is valid. it’s literally just saying 'you are neither male or female’ and nothing else. every single gender other than those two is nonbinary. it isn’t a gender any more than 'not australian’ is a nationality. the concept is an entirely necessary one and, again, is literally just a negation of the western gender binary system. if you’re anything other than the two genders of that system, you’re not on that system. you’re not on the western gender binary. you’re non-binary.
like. 'i dont like the label i don’t identify with it’ alright, and that’s a personal thing - but, ultimately, the lgbt community isn’t a personal thing. you can experience gender completely privately without any labels - the *point* of having labels, of developing a *community* is to organise towards lgbt rights. the only reason an 'lgbt community’ exists is that it was created by the lgbt rights struggle as a means of organising disparate people affected by a common axis of oppression under a common umbrella.
the sole reason the term 'transgender’ exists is to rally together people who are marginalised by forced gender assignment at birth - if you are not the gender you were forcibly assigned at birth, you are transgender. you can dislike the term personally and not identify with it, but as a descriptor it applies, and it *needs* to apply for reasons bigger than personal comfort. having language that can describe these things, having terminology, is fundamental for forming a rights movement. fundamentally, the term is not a personal statement of identity, it is a description of a social relationship towards an axis of oppression, being transphobia. the coherence and solidarity of that rights movement is in general more important than the aesthetics of a certain term.
everyone’s experience of gender and sexuality are personal, but the reason we have these terms is to enable discussion and analysis of ways gender and sexuality exist as axes of oppression. these terms are descriptive and theoretical, they identify who is a target of a certain oppression. we *cannot* have a rights movement without them. the basis of all these terms, which have become labels, which have become identities, is in *political organisation and action*. the lgbt community was not formed as a fun club, a self-contained thing for its own sake. it is a means to fight for our rights. to do that we need to be able to concretely describe who we are and what fights we’re fighting for.
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